We met earlier this year, and have already had some very hot meetings and a good weekend abroad where the focus was on bondage and bondage in uniforms.
He is 50/50 and tops as well as he bottoms.
Not only does Totam have great looks and a personality that is cheeky, cute, warm and so very present.
He gets the most wonderful look in his eyes when he plays – a look that most guys can’t withstand, and with good reason.
When I first met him, I remember feeling so very lucky to have this great guy sub for me.
A guy who enjoys the bondage as much as I do.
I still feel lucky for having him as my friend and that we have the chance of meeting every now and then for some great fun in and out of ropes.
When he changed to the sailor outfit, it had a nice effect on me.
Somehow my headspace changed, so I now fully understand what some of my subs say and mean, when they say that eg. a heavy iron collar can change your mindset.
This is what happened with me when Totam stood in front of me as the sailor.
Where I normally will relax and almost achieve a meditative headspace in my bondage, Totam has an effect on me where he gets all of my focus and it is not a matter of the ropes working, but a matter of how he is embraced by them.
It is very hard to explain, but there is a change which I only achieve with few subs.
This is another reason why I value him as a bondage friend – besides being a good buddy and friend.
He brings out something else in me, something that takes concentration and reflection.
I value his friendship and the time we spend together.
More photos will follow later on from our bondage sessions..